Choosing The Hard Choice

There are times in life when we don't understand who we are or what to do. We become so involved in our own manufactured stress we forget about what is important. We forget about those around us and how to act. There are many ways to deal with what stresses us out. We, as imperfect humans, tend to bottle up stress and anger, like a fizzy drink with just a cork holding it all back, until we can't handle the pressure and we explode.

That is what is called, “Unchecked emotional reaction”, when we should instead logically respond with different options. It is humorous how we view anger as an emotion that is “uncontrollable”, when in fact anger is a choice based on selfish reasoning and mixed emotions of ignorance. Anger is when someone in the situation does not get what they want based on wanting to be in control. We choose how it works. If you see something funny it triggers a smile or a laugh. Something that makes us happy. If somebody you loved passes away or a toy is broken, your brain and body respond in a way where tears fall from your face and you cry. Happiness and sadness are emotional responses connected specifically to you through memories of previous engagements of what made us feel that way. However, Anger is a controllable reaction; we control how we react feeling that way. In the Bible it says, Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil (Ephesians 4:26-27), how you channel your anger determines the integrity of your character and how you view the world around you. The Bible also says, "In all your ways acknowledge Him(God) and He shall direct your paths". (Proverbs 3:6). I have been called 'cold' so to speak, or commonly as uncaring. I assure you that this is not true. I have a strange way of sharing emotions with those around me that I am close to. This makes it hard for me to be around people who are angry, or choose to be angry. I often state that I understand all points of view in a situation because of this sharing of emotions. I have learned to let go of things that have otherwise been deemed unforgivable. There is no physical or spiritual reward for; who can hold the biggest grudge or who can be the most petty. God knows your heart though those around you do not, you should still act accordingly as to not hold in bitterness that follows anger. Bitterness is being angry and making yourself miserable. It's like you are a bottle and anger is the fizzy Coke inside of you; the bitterness is 'waiting for the mentos candy to be dropped in but it never does', but still acting like it should be, Just because you want it to. You control your own mind and what goes into it. Bad thoughts lead to worrying all the time. Bad music influences your language and the way you treat others. You can control these things and how you let them affect you. You can't control everything that happens to you in life. You can, however, control how you react OR respond to those situations. Most people will blame God for the bad things that happen to them. Some will even say, "Well the devil made me do it". No. We are built with a free will, that makes us responsible with the freedom to choose and accept the consequences whether they are good or bad. It would be the same as if we blame the judge for being put into prison for our actions and saying, "Well it wouldn't have happened if I wasn't tempted by you!". The Judge didn't put those temptations there, the world did. As a closing thought I will not say be careful with your choices, because it is based on how you respond to the choices you make. I will say, Be aware of how you respond to the situations that you find yourself in and how you display the anger that you feel to certain situations. Choose to respond positively rather than to react negatively.